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Gw lagi iseng2 ganti lay out.Pencat-pencet button,rubah2 template....gak taunya,twing....blog gw ancur semua.
Semua yg udah gw posting ilang kuabeh.Sekarang,gw masih berusaha ngebenerin(ini juga kalo bisa lho),enggi janji !!!.

So,for people out there....bisa tolong gw gak yg gatek ini???pls....(beginilah nasib orang yg kagak ngartos tekhnology).
- So,gimana caranya, biar postingan2 gw yg dulu2 keluar lagi.

Sebelumnya muakasih banyak lho,
Deasyx

Getting divorced 'n Winning the heart of your husband.

Masih inget dgn temen gw ,yg waktu itu ngalamin masalah rumah tangga nya??.

Kemarin itu,dia telp gw lagi.Dia bilang,keadaan rumah tangga nya semakin parah.Bahkan,mereka berdua udah ngomongin ttg divorce segala. Dan suaminya agreed kl anaknya nanti bakalan boleh ikut dgn mummynya.

Suami nya bilang;kl nanti mereka jadi cere, dia itu gak mau kl anaknya tinggal di Indo.

Alesannya; karena kejauhan 'n gak ada cukup dana untuk nyekolahin anaknya.

Just to give you rough idea,berapa harga sekolah international di Indo;

British School biaya nya sekitar $9 K-$12 K,Global sekitar $5 K-more.

So,sekarang temen gw ini lagi mau bikin passport/ganti.Seenggak nya nanti (kl dia jadi single mum)dia bisa tinggal di europe terus; dia bisa claim council house,benefits dr govt,dll...

Waktu dia telp gw,dia coba untuk ngomong (tabah 'n strong).Dia bilang; dia juga gak akan bisa pulang ke indo bawa anaknya(karena his education,etc).Dia bilang; dia juga gak akan bisa untuk tinggal dinegara suaminya,karena; dia gak kuat hidup sendiri dgn anaknya(tanpa ada yg ngasih support secara emosional).

Dia sempet ngomong sambil nangis; Gimana kalo suatu saat nanti laki gw punya pacar?gw gak sanggup deas ngeliat dia punya cewek lain.........

Gw bilang; " Jgn mikirin dia lagi,kl nanti elo udah cere...pikirin aja anak lo.Gw tau,gampang sekali buat buat gw ngomong,karena gw gak pernah ngalamin penderitaan elo...tapi biarin hidup elo perih asal elo bisa hidup dgn anak lo kan udah lebih dari cukup.Pokoknya jadiin anak lo pacuan buat hidup elo".

"Gw pernah liat dia tidur di lantai dapur (after midnight-sampe pagi),waktu dia pulang abis mabok(dr pub).Gw udah gak sanggup lagi deas hidup dgn dia....."

"Sampe kapan gw harus tunggu dia untuk sadar(jadi orang bener),20 thn lagi?5 thn lagi?gw gak bisa deas..."

"Dia selalu ngelarang gw sholat,dan dia selalu berbuat dzalim terus........."

Hati siapa yg gak sedih ngedenger orang yg deket dgn lo (temen lo bertahun-tahun)ngomong seperti itu????.Gak nyangka hidupnya dia bisa kaya gitu.

So,at the end we both cried..... gw pikir, there's no way gw bisa belaga strong di depan dia.Perasaan gw saat itu,gw mau terbang(kl gw punya sayap),gw mau be there for her 'n give her a big cuddle (give her some comfort)'n tell her; everything is going to be fine!!!!.Yah...walaupun gw sendiri juga gak yakin...mikirin gimana hidup dia nantinya.

The thing is with her..........disaat-saat dia lagi ngalamin musibah yg super berat seperti itu,justru dia lebih mendektkan diri lagi dgn Allah.Dia selalu bilang;gw niatin karena Allah untuk cere dgn suami gw.Gw gak bisa kalo bapaknya anak2 selalu behave kaya gitu; mabok 'n gak suka istri 'n anaknya praktekin agamanya.Kita semua hidup getting older not getting any younger.Kalo gak insaf dari sekarang,kapan lagi????.

Ngedenger dia ngomong kaya gitu; I thought....bloody hell,she doesn't deserved him..she deserved a nice decent man .

Dulu waktu gw masih kost barengan ama dia (selama beberapa thn)di Panglima Polim(Kebayoran situ) ,gw selulu nge-treat dia biasa aja....nothing special.She's nice person and all that but then again her imaan wasn't so good at that time(though she prays 'n fasting), well at least dia better dari kebanyakan cewek2 lain(itu menurut gw lho).

Tapi sekarang......,semenjak dia punya anak,iman dia ber-tambah 'n tambah lagi.

Gw selalu ber -pikir;How I admired this woman; for being such a tawakal person!!!.

Gw sih belom pernah bilang ama dia kalo gw ini (diem2 ngagumin dia).

I know,I really should tell her that...and I will,Insha Allah.

Oya,waktu gw 'n temen gw nangis di telphone,Lee 'n Sian(adenya),diri disamping gw.Mereka ikutan sedih.Sian matanya udah berair sambil bisik2; r u ok? 'n Lee ngomong; tell her,she can come to england 'n stay with us!!!.

Gw bilang ama dia; kalo nanti dia udah punya passortnya,dia bisa decide.She can come to england 'n stay with us...sampe semuanya berjalan ok.Disini dia bisa kerja-gw bisa jagain anaknya( karena Allah) 'n anaknya bisa sekolah gratis di UK,dia bisa pergi ke madrasa on the weekend with yusuf,bisa pergi ke mesjid dgn yusuf 'n Lee(pokoknya more expose dgn agama) Or......she can stay where she is now,claim for a council house-buat mereka tinggal,claim benefits from their govt,dll...tp kl nanti dia kerja siapa yg mau ngurus anaknya? 'n gimana masalah agamanya?.

Terakhir dia ngomong ama gw di telpon itu,dia bilang;kalo dia sekarang lagi ngumpulin uang- kerja di Mc Donald.

Dia kerja dari jam 2 siang sampe jam 11 malem.Kasian...hidupnya bener2 perih.

Bukan hanya gw,Lee 'n Sian yg ikutan sedih.Nyokap gw bener2 terpukul.Dia bilang; dia jadi inget waktu pertama kali,waktu Lee mau nikahin gw.Nyokap selalu worried(bukannya bahagia),karena dia tau dia bakalan hidup jauh dgn anaknya.

Begitu gw nikah 'n gw pergi ke UK,disitulah nyokap tambah worried lagi.Dia takut kalo Lee galak,etc...

(Nyokap);Aduh,semaleman mamah mikir- bener2 takut,gimana kalo ini kejadian ama anak mamah sendiri?gimana sekolahnya,macem2 nya.......

(Gw ); Iya...tapi Neng (ortu 'n gw panggil gw-Neng; bahasa sunda),kan posisinya alhamdulilah jauh lebih beruntung di banding si X. Lee alhamdulilah ,gak pernah ngelarang neng untuk nyembah Allah/sholat,etc.Yg ada ,justru dia lah'(n atas ijin Allah) neng bisa jadi begini; pake hijab 'n ngerti agama lebih banyak lagi.

(Nyokap);Iya kl Lee kaya begitu(nauzdubillah min dzalik),pulang aja neng ke indonesia.

(Gw);emangnya mamah bisa nge-biayain neng ama anak2 neng?

(Nyokap);heu euh...kajeun lah....mamah rek nitah papa ngarampok bank....geus aki aki iyeu atuh *sambil cekikikan*.

Artinya; nyokap mau nyuruh bokap ngerampok bank,(ngorbanin bokap yg udah toku 61 thn),biar mereka bisa ngebiayain gw 'n anak2 gw. Hua...ha..ha...Gelo euy emak urang,edun!!!.hidup neng setiawati!!(nyokap).Merdeka!!.Nyi Iteung tea atuh, pikiraneun!!.

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Karena kejadian temen gw ini,gw jadi takut untuk pisah ama Lee,sumpah!(gw pikir; it happened to her...so it can happen to anyone).Dan Lee juga takut kalo gw tinggalin dia.Buktinya; dia selalu ngomong"I don't know what I'm going to do without you"(Ahh...masa sih say?!!),jadi GR deh eke ...............!!.

"Winning the heart of your husband".

Aygeessss ago,Lee pernah beli 2 buku ;berjudul seperti yg di atas,dan satu lagi; winning the heart of your wife.

Setiap kali gw baca buku ini,mukanya Lee langsung berseri-seri,kesenengan.Begitu juga sebaliknya.Pengennya sih, gw mau dia baca tuh buku tiap hari...biar dia tambah cintrong ama neng geulis nu seky iyeu ..he..he..

Ok,ini ada sebagian points yg bagus yg gw ambil dari buku (thought you all might want to know)'n semoga bermanfaat buat kita semua,Amin;

1.There's an authentic hadith in which prphet stated that if mankind had been ordered to prostate to any other that Allah,Women would have been ordered to prostate before their husband(Tirmidhee).

However though,She need not follow him into evil.If a husband wants his wife to do something which is against Allah's law,she should not obey him.

2.Any woman who dies while her husband pleased with her,will enter paradise(Tirmidhee).

3." O,Prophet! tell your wives,daughters 'n the believing women to cast theit outer garments over themselves(when outside).That is best in order that they might be known and not molested".(surah Al-ahzaab(33);59.

4."....You are not like other women: if you fear allah,do not be too pleasent in your speech(with men),in case one with diseased heart should be moved with desire;but speak straight forward way And stay quietly in your homes and do not put yourself on display,as was done in time of ignorance.And make regular prayers,give regular charity and obey Allah and His apostle".(surah al -ahzaab(33):32 and 33.

5."If a husband calls his wife to his bed(to have a sexual relatiions)and she refuses 'n causes him to sleep in anger,the angels will curse her till morning".(agreed upon)

6."The best woman among you is she who pleases her husband when he looks at her,obeys him when he orders her and is faithful towards him regarding her person and his property if he is absent"(transmitted by;an-nasa'i' and al- ira'qi)

7.There are two people whose prayer does not pass beyond their ears;the runaway slave til he returns,and the woman who disobeys her huband til she repents.(transmitted by;al hakim & al bani).

For people out there yg penasaran,koq di islam cewek mulu sih yg harus berbuat ini itu...jgn kuatir, di islam juga nyuruh suami koq untuk berbuat yg sama.

Salah satu nya-The Prophet said;

"The best of you is the best with your wife(in treatment),and I am the best of you with my household".(At-Tirmidhee and Ibn Majah)

Leaving Party.

Hari ini kita pergi ke sekolah yusuf(untuk acara perpisahan).Gw nyaranin nyokap.Gw bilang; mah kita bikin lumpia gr 'n onion bhajee yuk,buat acara perpisahan disekolah yusuf.
Nyokap bilang; bule2 ntar pada mau makan gak? ntar cape2 bikin pada gak doyan lagi.

Anyway,akhirnya kita bikin banyak spring rolls 'n onion bhajees. Wah...seneng bgt,ngeliat makanan gw abis dimakan ortu murid 'n guru2. Nyokap sempet ngedumel; itu tuh,bapak2 yg gendut itu...bulak balik mulu ngambilin makanan kita. Kasian yg lain belom kebagian.

Acara perpisahannya bagus.Yusuf pake nyanyi2 segala.Semua anak dapet hadiah dari sekolah.Masing2 murid dapet injil buat anak2(kecuali Yusuf of course).
Masha Allah,mereka dari sekolah -ngasih Yusuf hadiah buku sekitar 8 buku cerita /buku agama islam(kaya cerita ttg prophet Yusuf,Ibrahim,dll).Oh...yusuf was so pleased with his pressies!!.

Kemarin gw 'n nyokap pergi ke mall-beli hadiah buat guru2 nya yusuf.Hanya hadiah kecil,tp semoga aja mereka suka the pressies nya!!.
Oh ya,sebelom kita pergi ke mall,temen gw bilang; hati2 deas,pergi ke tempat rame kaya gitu(takut ada orang yg maki2 kita -karena bombs).Tapi alhamdulilah,gak ada yg tuh-orang yg ngajakin berantem/ngejek.

Anyway,this friday,saturaday 'n sunday (2 weekends),Lee mau pergi ke islamic course,di Leyton- London. Topik course ini ttg: 40 hadiths imam nawawi yg diselenggarai oleh brother Abu Abi Salam.

So,berhubung babe nya ntar gak ada...gw rencana mau kirim yusuf to ma & da in laws untuk nginep beberapa hari buat liburan.
(Gw) tanya; yusuf mau ke rumah grandma gak?
(Y); what?stay there on my own?
(G); yes...and we'll pick u up later(when daddy finished his course).
(Y);Hm....I'm not sure mum.....
(G);why?
(Y):because.. grandad is a naughty.He likes to drink the khamar/alcohol (after he had a dinner)..And when I asked him; what's that grandad?. He told me, that was just a tap water.
(G):oh yes he was very naughty,wasn't he?...
(Y):Oh....I 'll tell him off if he does it again....

So I'm working on it....lagi ngebujuk nih anak u/nginep. Lee sih sebenernya udah sering ngomong ama bokapnya,untuk gak minum di depan yusuf,tp kadang2 dese suka error.
But I must say; mertua gw (mereka)coba really hard u/gak minum didepan yusuf.
Mereka paliiiiing doyan ngeledekin anaknya- Lee.Pernah bokapnya bilang; udah deh pada nginep semua udah jam 10.30 malam.Lee bilang;oh gak apa2 kita pulang aja(jarak nya hanya 1 jam 'n 30 mnt ini).Terus bokapnya cepet2 nyeletuk; oh ....elo takut ya,kl besok pagi kita kasih breakfast bacon???*ngomong sambil cekikikan*

Sebenernya gw mau cerita banyak ttg temen gw yg mau get divorced,dll...tapi nanti aja yah...gw lagi gak enak badan kena mastitis(spelling??).

Air Zam-Zam

Beruntung tinggal di UK,kita bisa beli air zam-zam dari islamic store.Sebagian air udah gw botol2 lin(pindahin ke botol2 kecil),buat nyokap bawa pulang ke Indonesia.
Pasti nanti keluarga gw/ orang2 di indo pada heran; oleh2 dari england,air zam-zam????.
R.F

Obat sedih...lamb biryani ala cece Deasy.
R.F

Sad day for Brits people.

Sad...sad...sad...Gak nyangka London bisa diserang kaya gitu.As a muslim who lives in Britain,gw bener2 ngerasa sedih ngeliat kejadian kemarin itu 'n juga ngerasa sebel dgn media.
Mereka(media) bilang: islamic terrorist yg nge- bom.Kenapa sih, mereka harus mentioned agama sebuah group/golongan???.Mereka harus tau the difference between islamic 'n the terrorist.Didunia ini banyak ditaktor,pembunuh,pemerkosa yg non-muslim,tp apa mereka mention "this certain religion killer,pemerkosa,etc.......?"nggak kan?!!.

Anyway,siapun yg ngelakuin pem-bom man ini -May Allah curse them!!.Semoga,the brits police,detectives,(or whatever u want to call it) bisa secepat mungkin nangkep nih si bombers/penjahatnya.
Kalaupun yg ngelakuin ini muslim,they r obviously idiots,morons,etc...How u gonna call yourself as a muslims?kl elo elo pada kerjaanya hanya bisa ngejelekin muslims?.
It's not fair on us(practising muslims)yg bener2 mau ngejalanin agamanya according to prophet's way of teaching/sunah.

Sekarang, the whole muslims communities in the world(especially in Britain),lagi ngalamin cobaan lagi(after 9/11).Gimana curiganya orang2 dgn muslims .
Insha Allah,mereka( Brits),gak akan berubah kelakuannya towards the muslims.

As muslims we should remain firm in our beliefs 'n be patience.And remember:

Allah does not lay on any soul a burden except to the extent to which He has granted it; Allah brings about ease after difficulty. (65:7)

If Allah assists you, then there is none that can overcome you, and if He forsakes you, who is there then that can assist you after Him? And on Allah should the believers rely. (3:160)



R.F

Fancy fish 'n chips & olympic?

After Mr.Chirac(french president),made stupid comment about;
-british foods,weather & mad cow deases.
Now is my turn to make a funy joke kuacian deh lo.....



R.F

Yes....we got it!!. Olympics 2012 will be held in London.Kasian orang perancis...pasti mereka GUTTED!.Go London...go London...!!
R.F

Sulaiman abis disunat.Tepatnya kemarin tgl 5/6/05.
Oh...at last,my 2 boys have had a circumcision.


Good Luck London!.Semoga bisa menang ( bisa host Olympics 2012)
R.F